The good and bad of newborn baby advice
Everyone has an opinion period. As a new mom you will hear a lot of advice, that may or may not be helpful. How do you decide what you should listen to and what to take with a grain of salt. Here are some of the good and bad newborn baby advice that I have heard. How do you decide what you should listen to and what you should ignore? The best advice that you should take from this is
You are the expert on your child. You will make the best decision with your baby’s best interest in mind.
You know what is best for your baby. From the moment they are born until they go off to college you will make decisions that have your child’s best interest at heart. Even as a new mom with no experience you will decide what is best for your child based on your motherly instincts. AND if you are unsure there are plenty of resources available, from doctors to family to the internet that will provide you with the information you need to make the best decision possible.
The good and bad of newborn baby advice:
Holding your baby will spoil them: The good: Your baby spent 9 months in you womb being held and wants to feel that warmth, that love again. So holding them gives them a sense of security, love and most importantly familiarity. I carry my baby around with me most of the day and I know that he likes to be held, but I also like holding him. The bad: If you are constantly holding your child all the time then they will think that being held is the norm. And there are times when you need to put your child down, and your child does need to have tummy time and play time. Your child needs to learn how to sit up, and lift their head. Around 3 months they track you and begin moving their head. Allowing them to try to sit up while propped up on the boppie will help strength the muscles they will need for head control, and back control so they can sit up. Create a holding, sitting schedule that is balance so that your child is getting developmentally appropriate play time, AND mommy is getting cuddle time.
Every time your baby cries you should pick them up: Good or bad advice? So this one really depends on what you want to do as a mother. I remember telling Jay that ‘babies cry’, and they do. Sometimes your baby will cry and there is nothing that you can do to soothe them. They may have colic, or maybe they are really tired, or they just want to cry to let out some stress. When your child is inconsolable then you can hold them and let them cry in your arms, or you can put baby down and let them cry. It is really your decision to make. When Baby Jack was going through his colic stage and would cry at night, sometimes I would try to console him, and sometimes I would put him in his chair, turn on swing and vibrator and just let him cry. I remember as a new mom is was hard to listen to Jay cry, and not being able to soothe him. And it does become frustrating when you can not soothe and comfort your child. Sometimes the best thing to do is walk away for a minute, especially if you feel like you are becoming frustrated. As a mom your instincts are to care for your baby the best way you see fit. If you want to pick up your crying baby then do it, if you do not want to then do not. It is mom’s choice to make.
Your baby will not sleep through the night until they get cereal: Bad advice. Breast fed babies will begin to sleep for longer stretches of time around 2 months. Make sure that you have an established bedtime routine in place that you stick to every night. You do not need to add cereal to breast milk so they will sleep longer. If your child is not ready for cereal then it can cause a rash, or digestive problems. Yes you are tired and you want to sleep, but giving cereal is not going to help. Establishing a consistent bedtime routines that happens every night will ensure that your baby goes to bed at the same time and begins to sleep through the night.
You are in charge of babies routine. Wake them up when they need to be fed, if they wake up at night let them cry: Bad advice: Yes you should establish a routine that is based on babies needs. You may have a friend whose baby sleeps all night and your baby sleep all day. But they will eventually sleep at night. Trying to keep them up all day does not mean they will sleep all night. You can not tire out the baby! Not allowing them to take naps during the day can make them overly tired, which can make it harder for them to fall asleep. I personally tired keeping my son up all day thinking that I would tire him out, and it DID NOT WORK!! He stayed up most of the night cooing and babbling ALL NIGHT LONG!!! Let your baby take naps during the day, help them understand the difference between day and night. They will eventually understand the difference and begin to sleep through the night.
If your baby is constipated then give them water to drink with Kayro syrup breastfed babies need water: Terrible, horrible advice. Breastfed babies do not need water. Breastmilk provides all the nutrients your baby needs. The Kayro syrup supposedly makes the water sweet so baby will drink. Giving baby Kayro syrup can cause botulism. Your breastfed baby will become constipated at some point. Babies can have as much as week pass between bowel movements. Before you reach that amount of time call your doctor on what your should do to help relieve your child.
Sleep when baby is asleep: Good advice for new moms. You will be tired and you are not used to staying up all day and night to care for baby. If you are a mom of more than one then I think its bad advice. I have two sons and I can not sleep while baby sleep, because the older one is awake. As a new mom I took this advice to heart and whenever Jay was asleep so was I. But with Baby Jack and Jay I can not sleep while one, or even both nap. I have too much to do, and I do not want to miss out on time with Jay because I am asleep.
Here are just a few of the good and bad of newborn advice. What type of advice have you heard/received? Was the advice good or bad. Please share. Just to reiterate: The best advice I can give is you are the expert on your child. You decide what is best for them. In my opinion everyone has an opinion, and its up to you to decide if you want to listen or ignore.