Have you ever walked into a room and forgot why you walked in? Or began a story, and then forgot what you are talking about? Do you have child(ren)? If you answered yes to any of these questions then you may have Mommy Brain. Sorry this does not apply to Dads. Mommy Brain is real. Here is how it happens and how you can fight against it!
What causes mommy brain?
“New research has found evidence that hormonal changes in pregnancy and childbirth could affect brain function later in life.Mommy Brain begins when you are pregnant”. The increase in hormones can actually change your brain activity, which leads to forgetfulness and absentmindedness. Becoming a mother will alter your brain! Your brain is preparing for the birth of your child. During pregnancy your brain matter becomes more concentrated as your focus shifts. “In other words, those maternal feelings of overwhelming love, fierce protectiveness, and constant worry begin with reactions in the brain”. Some studies have also mentioned an increase in activity in a mother’s obsessive compulsiveness area of the brain. Which explains why moms are the only ones who see the dirty dishes in the sink, or the pile of laundry waiting to be folded.
Other studies have linked increased stress, constant multi-tasking, and lack of sleep to mommy brain. Increase stress makes it harder to focus. Moms who are constantly multi-tasking, i.e feeding baby while reading an email asking your to bring cookies to your child’s school, makes it harder to remember what you are reading/talking/cleaning/writing about, ie you forget to bring the cookies. Lastly lack of sleep can turn in mom into a mombie.
Way to improve memory and stop Mommy Brain
1- Get plenty of sleep: When you are rested you are aware of what is happening around you and your memory is better. Try to get as much sleep as possible! When you get enough sleep at night your brain is able to process the day and shut down so that it can rest. Try tracking the amount of sleep you get every night in a journal to help with setting a bedtime, adults need bedtimes too!, and to determine how much sleep you need every night to wake up ready to take on the world, or maybe just your household.
2- De-Stress! Do not stress about the small stuff. Yes there are dirty dishes in the sink and laundry is piling up and you need to schedule appointments and grocery shop, AND you still haven’t brushed your teeth because its 6 AM! Take a deep breath, and relax. It will get done, eventually. Take time and enjoy being with your children and husband. Take a walk,enjoy the sunshine. Create a chore calendar with designated times for different chores (if your children are old enough, assign them chores). Do not sweat the small stuff! Try Yoga and mediation as another way to de-stress. Make sure that you have Me Time! Your family needs you to be at your best, for the most part. If you are not taking time for you, then when will you get that time. Go and have a pedicure, or walk around the Fabric store in circle, just make sure that you have some time to yourself.
3- Start writing it down! I can not remember what I want to say or do from one moment to the next. I started a bullet journal to help me stay orangaized, and I LOVE IT!!! (I included the link on how I started.) I sit down and plan out my week every Sunday and decide when I will wash clothes, blog, sew and keep track of my children’s appointments. I also enjoy writing and doddling in it, it’s my mini-break me time. Writing things down helps you remember things better. If you do not want to make a Bullet Journal, then buy a planner or a journal to keep track of notes and to-do list. Or there are tons of Apps that are made to help manage our time, and set reminders.
4- TRY to decrease multitasking. This one is hard, because the efficiency of my life is based on how many things I can do at once throughout the day. BUT I know that in the midst of doing 5 things, that I will either forget what I need to do next, or forget what I was talking about while I was multi-tasking.I will at least try to stop multi-tasking while I am talking so that I can focus on what is being said.
5- Vitamins and Diet. Some vitamins such as zinc (found in meats and fortified cereals), vitamin B-12, and folic acid can increase your ability to remember. Iron has the greatest effect on memory. To add more iron in your diet eat more red meat, or take a multivitamin or supplement that has iron in it.
Mommy Brain is real, and as a mom you have the right to blame everything on Mommy Brain at least until your youngest child is 18! What are your funniest mommy brain moments? Share below